A life altering loss unfortunately also comes with much unsollicited “spirit-splaining”, mostly from people who don’t get it. In honor of #worldchildlessweek, join me to explore the harm this does to those suffering not asked for losses. And to investigate the underlying motivations of these dismissive “God’s Plan” and “Meant To Be” type platitudes.
When you can’t have the children you wanted, the subject of your “before” life can be also be tricky. See what happened when I went back in tme to visit my hometown.
We live in a world where people commonly possess the unconscious bias that people without children are not affected by harm done to children. That we don’t care, and that we somehow lack the emotional depth to have a relevant reaction to such things. In this post I highlight that nothing could be further from the truth of course, by submitting my childless voice to the conversation in response to recent tragic world events.
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Thank you for your post too, your pespective is so valuable. I’m still reeling from the religious artefact dispensing……nothing worse…
That’s so funny – yes great minds DO think alike!! Loved your post, Mali.
“What kind of God serves up this as a plan?” – Exactly! It so doesn’t track, at least relative to…
We’ve been left out of the ring again?? Shocking! 😉
This is timely, I have just written about a religious artefact or two that was sent my way – one…
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