Have you ever felt pressure to be grateful, especially in the face of loss? Come with me as I question different angles of gratitude & explore circumstances where it may not always be good for us. #childlessness #mentalhealth #holidays #infertility
How do you sort out Halloween as a childless person? What are your post traumatic growth triumphs? Reflect with me on the revealing power of holidays – those darned things that just keep coming around again & again! – and healing’s odd celebrations.
A life altering loss unfortunately also comes with much unsollicited “spirit-splaining”, mostly from people who don’t get it. In honor of #worldchildlessweek, join me to explore the harm this does to those suffering not asked for losses. And to investigate the underlying motivations of these dismissive “God’s Plan” and “Meant To Be” type platitudes.
We live in a world where people commonly possess the unconscious bias that people without children are not affected by harm done to children. That we don’t care, and that we somehow lack the emotional depth to have a relevant reaction to such things. In this post I highlight that nothing could be further from the truth of course, by submitting my childless voice to the conversation in response to recent tragic world events.
I’ve been trying to pinpoint why I was so excited about turning fifty. I know the indifferent hands of time don’t REALLY coordinate with life’s happenings – multiple failed fertility treatments schooled me fully on that. For example, just because it’s a New Year on January 1 doesn’t necessarily mean we can all have aContinue reading “Childless Milestones: The Useful Byproducts of Fifty”
……and, an homage to basics During the eight years since my final failed fertility treatment, there are a lot of key life things within the depicted realm of being childless I HAVEN’T done if I’m to be quite honest. Now, I’m thankful we’re living in a time where involuntarily childless lives are being projectedContinue reading “My Last Eight Years, A Brief Tour”